“As a homemaker she enjoyed cooking and baking and sharing hospitality in her home. Her hands were busy with knitting, crocheting and all handiwork. Most of all she enjoyed spending time with her family.” These were words from the obituary of a simple country woman who loved the Lord, her husband and her family. She was a true helpmeet to her dairy-farmer husband, a passionate gardener, having an acre of vegetable garden until her health forced her to give it up a few years ago, and a consummate cook.
Proverbs 31:10-23 says: Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
- “Pearl knew no limits to caring and helping. Her table was always ready for more people. She gave of herself and her substance relentlessly. She was definitely a Proverbs 31 woman,” writes a woman who as a girl enjoyed being often in Pearl’s home.
- Another writes, “Laughter is not in the ‘spiritual gifts’ list directly – but hospitality is. I am quite sure that never was there a more grateful college student recipient I, of her joyful hospitality! God knew I needed Mrs. G’s (and her family’s!) open heart, home of laughter, fresh cookies and zing for life as a college student – especially after loosing my own mom.”
- “She couldn’t do enough for you. Each time we visited Loren and Pearl she wanted to share something she had canned, baked or from the garden,” writes her brother and sister-in-law.
- (This attribute of exceptional giving wasn’t always understood by me. When I was a young bride, I chafed when she would bring well over half the food we would need to eat for the weekend when she and my father-in-law came to visit! I wanted to give her something. But this was her way of saying “I love you.”)
- Her 6 children shared during the funeral that verbally saying “I love you” wasn’t her way; instead she would discover your favorite food, and then she would make it for you every time you came home to visit!
- Mine was her incredible Chicken and Noodles. She made the noodles from scratch! This dish is so beloved that it was requested and she cooked it for all the guests at her 3rd daughter’s wedding reception!!
- My husband’s favorite dish of hers was Swedish Brown Beans: he will sadly miss her making them for him. (We brought home a Large glass cannister of these special beans, so that I can attempt the dish, knowing full well that I will never be able to make it like she did.) Food was her “love language.”
A week was spent going through all Mom’s things, and dividing them up, first between her children, and then her grandchildren. A family reunion of my father-in-law’s side of the family followed right on the heels of this work, which meant that we were exhausted, but it was a wonderful time celebrating the wonderful Godly heritage this family has.