Yesterday, (in “The Proof is in the Pudding”), I spoke out against the tendency of all of us, including me, to look for our leading, counsel, and “Godly wisdom” on how to raise our children, and live our lives, from those rowing along with us in the same boat.
Who are you following? Whose advice are you listening to? Jesus warned that not all who say they’re a Christian know Him: Just because a person says it, doesn’t mean it’s so. They may not know Christ. If you say that you are a Christian, are you sure that you know Him? What should you look for?
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. (note: iniquity means “doing my own will, not God’s,” as it says in His Word.) Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.
A person who is a Christian, and believes that Jesus finished the work (“finished” means there’s nothing left to do) in paying the penalty on the cross for his or her sins, and believes that God the Father accepted that payment, and showed it by raising Jesus Christ from the dead, and is trusting in that for his or her salvation from hell, is saved and is going to heaven someday. But that person will have also, and must, surrender their lives to Jesus Christ as the Lord of their life. He is Savior and Lord. He settles for nothing less.
You can’t say, “Well, yes, He’s my Savior, but I don’t want Him to control my life.” Then He’s not your Savior, either.
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:9-10
When we make decisions about how we will raise our children, we often look at others’ lives and what decisions they have made, and follow them. Jesus said, before you listen to them, or follow them, look at the fruit in their lives.
Wait to see the end result, and the mature, ripened fruit, in the life of a person, before you follow their methods and counsel. In child-training, that would mean that the person has grownup children. Listening to, and following, those whose fruit is still immature is risky, at best, and though the person may be very Godly, and their example stellar, and it may be that their fruit will end up being sweet indeed, you won’t know for sure until their children are grown.