Do you realize what a huge thing it is to your husband that he would literally die for you?!
I didn’t. The last week or so we have been watching the “Love and Respect” DVDs by Emerson Eggerichs with our grown children. (Married couples: I highly recommend going to a Love and Respect conference, or getting the conference on DVD–get the most recent version; it is tremendous, and communicates a message that is not being spoken today–women need love, but men need respect.)
We are different, ladies! Men and women are different! He’s “not wrong, just different!” If a burglar broke into your home while you lay in bed sleeping tonight, he would not cower and send you out there with a bat—he would protect you and your children, or die trying!! Do you respect him for that?
The Word of God says,
“Greater love hath no man than this,
that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
He loves you. He just shows it a different way than you do. Show him unconditional respect, just as you desire unconditional love.
Why not write your husband a note today that says, in effect, I appreciate that you would die for us, if necessary, and I respect you for that. (It was suggested in the DVD that you could also write your appreciation for the fact that he takes responsibility for going to work every day to provide for your family, and don’t sign it, “Love, Your Wife”, but “With Great Respect…, or “I respect you, your wife”.) Using the word respect, he suggests, is speaking in your husband’s “love language.” Try it, and let us all know the results, ok?