There’s a malady amongst women. We seem to want to speak badly about our husbands. Do we want sympathy? Will we feel less frustrated if we spout off to a friend about how badly we’re treated?
Maybe we think we’re funny when we tell a story about him, that puts him in a bad light, even in front of him, maybe at a party or a gathering. You remember–you wanted people to think you were funny. So you told that hilarious story…again. The one you tell so well. He doesn’t mind. And it is funny. It gets better every time. Everyone was in hysterics! Yes, you were the life of the party. Did you notice he didn’t laugh? Did you notice how quiet he was on the ride home?
Maybe we want our children to think Mom is “smart” when we point out to the children that Daddy isn’t always right–makes silly mistakes, even kind of dumb decisions. Mom is the one to ask–she’ll know. Daddy doesn’t know anything. Mom will get you what you want. She’s the one in charge–she can make him come around.
Do you see he doesn’t stand as tall as he used to? Kind of hangs his head. Did you notice he feels like giving up without trying? Did you hear him sighing? Did you notice he doesn’t smile as much anymore and the twinkle’s gone out of his eye? That he speaks kind of rough sometimes? And doesn’t tackle those projects around the house? Funny, when he’s with the guys he seems happy enough, but he doesn’t seem to be very attentive, or listen like he used to. Says, “Whatever” and “What does it matter what I think?” Are you glad or sad that he doesn’t seem to be as affectionate these days?
Beware if your husband works in an office with appreciative women. They may not even be pretty. But, if they appreciate him–look at him with respect–he may be vulnerable.
Maybe you don’t do it very often, though, and never around him. All your friends tell funny stories about their husbands. It’s harmless girl talk. Nobody’s hurt by it.
Really? Would you want him to say something to his friends that put you in a bad light, maybe something personal? Would you want him to stand around telling his buddies stupid things you’ve done and have them all laugh at your expense?
Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. Matthew 7:12
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
If we are to think on things of good report, we must never put another person in the position of thinking evil or badly of our husbands. We want our husbands and others to think well of us and speak well of us, so that is what we must do to them. We must never speak evil or give a bad report of our husbands.