Today Penny Raine posted a wonderful article, entitled “Be an at-home Momma” on At the Well. She articulates a theme which, as you know if you are a regular visitor here, is my theme song. If you lived with me, you would hear me sing the chorus often! Stay at home, be content at home, don’t sow the seeds of fulfillment and pleasure and self-worth outside your home, or you’ll reap a harvest of discontent! And it’s not God’s will for you, if you’re a woman.
What I would like to add to what’s already been said is this, “Train your daughters that there’s no better place to be than home.” Train up your daughters to be keepers-at-home, and to believe that the highest calling in the world is to be a wife and mother! For that is the truth. Your words, your actions, and your attitudes must all line up, though, with this belief, or they will catch your true belief, no matter what you say.
If you believe that a woman should be in the home, but you’re not there much, excuse me, but you don’t really believe it.
If you say that the home and family is your ministry, but you go shopping every chance you get, or serve your church, your friends and every outside ministry instead (even if you bring your family along!) then they will not believe you and why should they?
1But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:
2That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
3The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
If it is your desire to be a Keeper at Home, the best thing I can recommend is to spend some serious time with the Lord in His Word and pray about your priorities and commitments and habits.
- Cancel all your appointments for a week and Don’t go anywhere at all (Can you even do it?) You probably will experience withdrawal.
- Get a piece of notebook paper and write down all the things you do in a regular day and week (from washing your face, and changing the baby-however many times-and sleeping to going to church and piano lessons and grocery shopping and eating out).
- Write down all the jobs and ministries and activities you’re committed to right now.
- Then Categorize them by At Home For my Family, At Home But Not For my Family, Church Activities/Ministries, Extended Family, Sports, Hobbies, Just For Me, etc., and evaluate and pray over them and ask God what needs to go.
- In other words, evaluate and really see for once what you’re doing with your life, and whether it’s all what the Lord would have you do.
- Then stop. doing. all those things.
- And learn to say when asked to do something, “I’ll get back to you; I have to ask my husband and pray about it.”
If it’s your husband who is busy outside the home and you think you’re supporting him by doing all those things, really pray about how to approach him and then have a heart-to-heart talk with him about your desire to be content at home and be the wife and mother you’re supposed to be, and about how much activity is wise outside the home.
I’m sorry, but all those people who are so busy doing all those wonderful things, and you wonder how they can keep up and still raise Godly children?
The fruit just isn’t on the tree yet. But, when it is, you’ll see that they reaped what they sowed and they sowed the wrong thing.
1. You Reap What you Sow
2. You Reap in a Different Season Than When You Sowed
3. You’re Responsible for the Condition of the Soil in Which the Seed is Sown
4. You Reap More Than What You Sow
5. You Reap in the Same Proportion to How Much You Sow
The truth is, we may reap what we’ve sown in our grandchildren. We may reap what we’ve sown in kind but it may look a little different (we neglected our families because we were obsessed with sports or ministry or other people…our children grow up to be obsessed with material possessions, or alcohol, or a false religion). Just different idols.
Be a Keeper at Home, and please train up your daughters to be the next generation of Keepers-at-Home, for the glory of God and His kingdom.
(I linked up at the Raising Homemakers Linkup.)