My Theme Song: Stay Home and Be Content

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Today Penny Raine posted a wonderful article, entitled “Be an at-home Momma” on At the Well.  She articulates a theme which, as you know if you are a regular visitor here, is my theme song.  If you lived with me, you would hear me sing the chorus often!  Stay at home, be content at home, don’t sow the seeds of fulfillment and pleasure and self-worth outside your home, or you’ll reap a harvest of discontent!  And it’s not God’s will for you, if you’re a woman.

What I would like to add to what’s already been said is this, “Train your daughters that there’s no better place to be than home.”  Train up your daughters to be keepers-at-home, and to believe that the highest calling in the world is to be a wife and mother! For that is the truth.  Your words, your actions, and your attitudes must all line up, though, with this belief, or they will catch your true belief, no matter what you say.

If you believe that a woman should be in the home, but you’re not there much, excuse me, but you don’t really believe it.

If you say that the home and family is your ministry, but you go shopping every chance you get, or serve your church, your friends and every outside ministry instead (even if you bring your family along!) then they will not believe you and why should they?

Titus 2

1But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:
2That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
3The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

If it is your desire to be a Keeper at Home, the best thing I can recommend is to spend some serious time with the Lord in His Word and pray about your priorities and commitments and habits.

Then:

  • Cancel all your appointments for a week and Don’t go anywhere at all (Can you even do it?) You probably will experience withdrawal.
  • Get a piece of notebook paper and write down all the things you do in a regular day and week (from washing your face, and changing the baby-however many times-and sleeping to going to church and piano lessons and grocery shopping and eating out).
  • Write down all the jobs and ministries and activities you’re committed to right now.
  • Then Categorize them by At Home For my Family, At Home But Not For my Family, Church Activities/Ministries, Extended Family, Sports, Hobbies, Just For Me, etc., and evaluate and pray over them and ask God what needs to go.
  • In other words, evaluate and really see for once what you’re doing with your life, and whether it’s all what the Lord would have you do.
  • Then stop. doing. all those things.
  • And learn to say when asked to do something, “I’ll get back to you; I have to ask my husband and pray about it.”

If it’s your husband who is busy outside the home and you think you’re supporting him by doing all those things, really pray about how to approach him and then have a heart-to-heart talk with him about your desire to be content at home and be the wife and mother you’re supposed to be, and about how much activity is wise outside the home.

I’m sorry, but all those people who are so busy doing all those wonderful things, and you wonder how they can keep up and still raise Godly children?

They can’t.

The fruit just isn’t on the tree yet.  But, when it is, you’ll see that they reaped what they sowed and they sowed the wrong thing.

The Laws of the Harvest:

1. You Reap What you Sow
2. You Reap in a Different Season Than When You Sowed
3. You’re Responsible for the Condition of the Soil in Which the Seed is Sown
4. You Reap More Than What You Sow
5. You Reap in the Same Proportion to How Much You Sow

The truth is, we may reap what we’ve sown in our grandchildren.  We may reap what we’ve sown in kind but it may look a little different (we neglected our families because we were obsessed with sports or ministry or other people…our children grow up to be obsessed with material possessions, or alcohol, or a false religion).  Just different idols.

Be a Keeper at Home, and please train up your daughters to be the next generation of Keepers-at-Home, for the glory of God and His kingdom.

(I linked up at the Raising Homemakers Linkup.)

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10 Replies to “My Theme Song: Stay Home and Be Content”

  1. Wendy,

    Finally got around to visiting and so glad I did. What a blessing reading your posts have been. So very encouraging in the Lord! Thank you for your Titus 2 ministry. It is so needed these days. I am your newest follower!

    Blessings,
    Jackie

  2. Love this post Wendy. Great energy booster when we are swimming upstream against the culture that teaches you the opposite!

    Vijaya

    hope you are feeling better today, was thinking of you last night when we didn’t see you at the shower.

    1. Vijaya,
      I’m glad it energized you to go against the world. Today, I was thinking about the need for a sequel to this post: what being home forces you to do, and how to stay happy and content at home. I’ll have to keep writing.
      I’m feeling a little better today, but still not 100%, so thanks for your prayers.
      Love you,
      Wendy

  3. Wendy, I applaud you for taking a strong stand on this issue. I was so privileged to be raised by a “stay-at-home” mom. I know that it had a tremendous impact on my resolve to make motherhood my number one priority when I had children of my own. I don’t have daughters – but if God blesses me with daughters-in-law, I hope that they feel this strongly about the issue. I have a feeling they might, because I know how my sons feel about it!

    GOD BLESS!

    1. Sharon,
      I’m glad to hear that there are still young men in our day who value a future stay-at-home wife. It helps to have planned ahead for, and have a commitment from the husband to, keeping the wife in the home. You are also truly blessed to have been raised by a stay-at-home mom. My own mom felt she had to go to work when I was in the 7th grade to pay our family’s medical bills after my sister’s long illness and death. But, it took its toll on me (the youngest) and has also had “a tremendous impact on my resolve to make motherhood my number one priority,” as you so aptly put it. Thanks for your commitment and affirming mine!
      Blessings,
      Wendy

  4. This is good , Wendy! I will re-read this post again. I am too busy right now, preparing to GO OUT to a bridal shower 🙂
    Many good thoughts here. Going out takes such a big chunk of time out of my day, even when it is just a “quick trip” to the library or post office. It always ends up taking longer than planned. We end up spending more money, too when we are not at home. This is timely, especially for those of us that are used to running around out and about more during the summer. When we start our homeschooling year, things have to change, or we just can’t be consistent. Thanks for the wise words.

    1. Thank you, Lisa. I’ve not been feeling well today, so am not attending the shower, but used my “spurt” of energy to post this:) (When it’s a topic that’s your passion, it doesn’t take very much energy or time to write about it.) You are so right about the chunks of time out of your day. It affects the momentum–you lose ground–which is difficult to get back.
      Wendy

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